When someone gives you advice or a suggestion about what to do and it doesn’t feel right for you, especially if it’s comes from an authority figure in your life, it can be hard for the Adult children of a narcissist to know what to do. How to not ‘offend’ the person, keep the relationship and also stay true to yourself. Because as a child – there was typically very little room to not comply or to express how ‘X’ is not right for you and have it be heard and respected.
If you can’t respond in the moment try: “Thanks, Let me think about it that”. This is a very handy expression to have in your back pocket to keep your power over your decisions and give yourself time. With practice it gets easier to remember that you are the best authority on you and what steps to take moving forward.
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